Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Avoiding Conflict - It's a Mind Game!

This is something anyone can do in an attempt to de-escalate (slow, stop) a confrontation.....

If a predator tries to close the distance on you (to launch an attack), a shove to the upper chest with both hands will generally send your adversary stumbling back, and trigger an adrenalin surge in their body.  And in that split second an opportunity to de-escalate the confrontation opens up.....

If your shove is followed by you stepping forward towards them, it can trigger a FIGHT response... and you don’t want that. 

But if you shove them and step back away to open the distance, it can trigger a FLIGHT response. Why? Because you’ve simultaneously presented a physical threat, and an opportunity for them to escape that threat.

It’s a trick of the mind – a primal response that's hard-wired into the human brain. So push hard (using your legs for extra power), and step back away!

Standing side-on, pointing at them and telling them to “Back off” in a strong confident tone can add to the psychological effect.

This body-language tactic is called a primal threat indicator... and it creates the impression that you have a serious intention to attack... even though you really just want to avoid further conflict.

It's Primal Protection.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

I'm a Predator - and this is how I'll set you up!

First I’ll make eye-contact... then I’ll close the distance... I’ll intimidate you into not resisting... then I’ll attack you without warning.

And it doesn’t matter what you try to say to me, because I’m not really listening, and I don’t really care. I just want to get so close that I can attack you without you seeing it coming.

So whatever you do, don’t let me close the distance to talking range (two feet).  No matter what I say or how I say it, move back or move around… and extend your hands forward slightly to create a defensive barrier.  Because all I want to do is get close, make you think that the attack hasn’t actually started yet, then strike you without warning.

In simple terms... I want to attack you... but I want it to be easy... and I want to avoid the risk of being injured myself.  It's what all predators want! 

But let's take a couple of minutes to explore in more detail how you can disrupt this type of set-up.

Firstly, keep this in mind... as long as a predator experiences no risk of pain or injury, they will keep trying to close the distance on their intended victim. 

They will generally do this by using threats and intimidation... which is meant to frighten the victim into being passive (and not resisting).

If their intimidation isn't working, a predator might even switch from being aggressive to being friendly... but it's just another way to try and close the distance, and attack.

I've even seen situations where a predator was pushed back away, then claimed that they had been assaulted... at which stage the victim thought they had done the wrong thing, and they actually let the predator get close (again)... only to suffer a sudden brutal attack.

So distance is always the first-and-best defensive response.  There's no point in trying to get a predator to see reason... they're not open to reason... they're a predator on the hunt for a victim.

(If you're standing this close with your hands down - you will be hit.)

So step away or move around to create a safe distance... and don't let them talk their way in close to you.  If they do keep trying, shove them away with both hands... then step back away yourself to open the distance even more. 

Then immediately stand side-on, drop your chin, extend one hand half-way forward, point at them with your forefinger and aggressively tell them to "Back-off... just f#cking back-off." or something to that effect. 

This body language is called a primal threat indicator... something they will perceive as being a serious intention to attack.  It sends a message that maybe - just maybe - you could cause them some pain and suffering.  And that's something that makes most predators re-evaluate the situation!

They still might decide to try their luck... but because of your body language and the safety of distance, you stand a good chance of instinctively deflecting or blocking any attack.

It's Primal Protection.

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Psychological Self Defence - Handling Verbal Attacks

Below are 3 posts (from my other primal blog) that deal with the art of psychological self defence.
Not All families Play Nice :
Testing Your Strength of Character :
Primal Put-downs - How to Handle Them :

It's Primal Protection.

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Tactical De-Escalation

The photo above is of the actor Vin Diesel in a de-escalation pose. He’s using his lead hand to create a barrier, which is sometimes called a fence. And with his rear hand he’s displaying a
primal threat indicator (a pointed finger).

Together with his facial expression they make the statement that he’s serious about telling you to stay away (low lead hand)... and if you push the situation he’s got you targeted (rear hand).

It's a psychological message that will register (unconsciously) with the person who just annoyed him!

For more on primal threat indicators and how they can be applied as a de-escalation tactic, click on this link : http://www.itsprimalprotection.com/2012/04/if-youre-confronted-give-them-finger.html

It's Primal Protection.

Saturday, February 1, 2014

What Traditional Martial Arts Won't Teach You!

The image above is from a video of a streetfight in Russia. But where it happened doesn't really matter because it involves the kind of violence we see on the news all the time.

The video (which is no longer available to watch), featured 2 victims who obviously didn’t want any trouble and continuously tried to back away… but the 3 predators kept closing the distance to attack.
Although no one is seriously injured in the brawl... mostly because of poor technique and the numbing effects of adrenaline... the assault only came to an end when one of the victims took a hatchet from the boot of his car.

Not surprisingly the predators scattered at that point. But wanting some sense of revenge, the guy then did a hatchet-job on the predator’s car (see image above).

None of what I've described so far sounds anything like what you see in most martial art schools… and yet it’s exactly what happens in most street brawls. So here are the important points you need to be aware of if you're thinking of learning any form of self-defence :

1)  Firstly, predators don’t want to get hurt – they just want to hurt their victims. So once they've selected their victim, they close the distance (get in your face) and launch a 'surprise' attack.

2)  No matter what you say to them, all they will hear is “Blah, blah, blah.” They don’t care what you say… they just want to hurt you. And that's why most people get punched while they're trying to say "I don't want any trouble....."

3)  Try not to let them get close enough to grab you... especially if there is more than one attacker. Move back, move around. If they do grab you go 'survival'... attack the eyes and throat... or even bite!

4)  Predators will continue to attack until they’re hurt, or until they think they're going to get hurt. In the video you will see one of the young predators launch a series of wild punches that don’t connect.  But he continues to attack, simply because he hasn't been hurt in any way.  And that brings us to the next point…..

5)  It helps to have at least one strong strike... a palm-heel, a punch, or an elbow. Otherwise just go 'survival' and attack their eyes, mouth, ears and throat. Keep in mind that if you can’t hurt them or frighten them, then they're not going to stop attacking you.

6)  Recent research has found that you can reduce PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) if you play an ‘active part’ in protecting yourself. In other words fight back... go on the offensive... show the predators that you’re not going to be a soft easy target.

7)  Another striking option is to use an E.D.O (Everyday Defence Object). Examples would be : a rolled-up magazine ; a small metal water bottle ; a tactical torch ; or a tactical pen. But whatever you plan to carry (or have in your car), you have to actually practice striking with it  every now and then.

8)  Even if you do manage to hit your attacker, keep in mind that you are both going to be pumped full of adrenaline… which makes the body faster, stronger, and feel less pain. So sometimes your strikes might not have much of an effect at all… so be ready to fight on!

9)  Finally, street violence is nothing like you see in the movies. It’s frantic and desperate... and that usually weakens the effectiveness of the punches and kicks.
So why don’t most martial arts classes take those points into consideration?  Well it’s all a bit of an inconvenient truth really... real violence is very unpredictable and messy.

In a street fight there can be more than one attacker, coming at you from different directions... one or more of them might be armed... and the attack can stop and start, and cover lot of ground. 

In contrast to that, most traditional martial art systems reflect a social etiquette and way of fighting that comes from another culture, and another time in history. In short, they are culturally-based, not reality-based. 

It's only in the last decade or so that a new approach to self defence has emerged. It's not limited by cultural training practices, and it's called : Reality-Based Self Defence (R.B.S.D.)   

This kind of training can be confrontational (emotionally), and often involves pressure-testing exercises. However it also involves an understanding of predator tactics... pre-fight and post-fight tactics... and an appreciation of the physical and psychological effects of adrenaline. 

But armed with this knowledge, what you'll discover is that you only need a few basic techniques to protect yourself effectively.

It's Primal Protection.